Interview with a traveler: Sonya Castellanos

“Travel isn’t always pretty. It isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it hurts, it even breaks your heart. But that’s okay. The journey changes you; it should change you. It leaves marks on your memory, on your consciousness, on your heart, and on your body. You take something with you. Hopefully, you leave something good behind.” – Anthony Bourdain

Traveling isn't always champagne and selfies at the airport. Sometimes it is stressful, sometimes it is hard, and sometimes you get disappointed. That is why it is good to know the good and the bad whenever you are going somewhere. I am very fortunate to have many friends who love to travel. The good thing about sharing your experiences with others is that you get to learn new things and be prepared. If you have never traveled or not traveled much it can be useful and help you prepare. I sat down with my dear friend Sonya, to share some of her many stories, tips and tricks of the many places she has been to. She is one of the people whose traveling makes me green with envy (but in a good way!). Let's dive in...

[a couple of glasses of red wine later]

Rx: Can you share a list of all the different countries you have traveled to, so I can get an idea of how much globe you have covered. 

SC: Surprisingly it hasn't been a lot. I started in my 20's and went back to the same countries: Mexico, Canada, Costa Rica, Croatia, France, Greece, Italy, Panama, Thailand, United Kingdom, Aruba, St.Maarten, and a lot within the U.S. For me, traveling means going on an adventure. It means going somewhere I haven't been before. It required effort to get there like taking a plane or train. Unlike my past trips, my travels in the next couple of years will be within the U.S. I have hobbies that give me opportunities to travel like: scuba diving, hiking, etc. Right now, I want to go to places like Idaho and Utah. I like to camp also, but with a purpose. I need to be out in the dirt with a purpose, whether it be to go hiking, white water rafting, etc.

Rx: Give me a run down of your first travel experience, and tell me how that went. Tell me what you learned, and what lessons you took away from that.

SC: OK, so I am Mexican-American, and when I turned 15, my mom asked me if I wanted to have a "quinciañera" (Mexican celebration) or a vacation. We didn't have a lot, and so I wanted to travel. We went to Hawaii. That was my first big long trip. Went to 3 islands. I remember vividly because it was one of the biggest trips I had and I went with family. I have a big gap with my brother who is 6 years older. He was daring and loved to snorkel and boogie board. I went with him the first time I snorkeled. Ever since I was 15, I would see the divers, and say "I want to do that." This trip was an adventure I had not experienced before. We stayed in nice hotels and just doing fun stuff. I was exposed to a very different culture. I learned there was so much to see and experience. I was so young and I knew I wanted to continue to travel. 
I guess the travel bug bit me. It helped a lot that my moms best friend was a travel agent. So she began her travels way before that. She started seeing the world. It was difficult at the beginning for my brother and I to travel since she had to get consent from my dad. Otherwise, we probably would have traveled younger. We ended up taking 3 or 4 hawaii trips from the age of 15-17 because she didn't need consent as it was within the U.S. Otherwise, I would have probably gone more.  

Rx: Do you have a favorite place to go to in LA?

SC: I love going to Grand Park because I feel like it is the heart of L.A. I work for city of L.A and it is close to my office and home. They have music events called Sunday Sessions there and we dance barefoot. I love taking off my shoes and being a hippie. The park brought back house music. It is an open environment for all ages, nationalities, orientations, dogs, etc. It's very "picnic style." People don't know this, but if u go to city hall, it's open to public. They have something called the Tom Bradley Tower that gives you a 360 degree view of the city.

Rx: Harry F. wanted to know, "How do you pick your next destination?"

SC: There's usually a specific activity I want to do in that location when I pick. I want to hike in Machu Picchu and I have been training for a 8 months. I want to go to Argentina because I love malbec wine so I want to go to Mendoza for the wine, specifically. I also love my music. I go where  the music goes and have been to lots of music festivals like Playa Del Carmen and Costa Rica for BPM. 

Rx: Now, I think you travel a lot (in a good way!). In terms of financial aspect of traveling, can you share tips on how to afford to travel? This is a big question because I know many people who don't travel because they think they can't afford it. Personally for you, would you say it helps to have a good job, a flexible job, to save up, or is it OK to charge and pay later, or something else? I personally am not a fan of the charge and pay later. I get satisfaction from coming back from my trip debt-free.

SC: I think you need to have of good job. LA is expensive and you need to have your needs met first and foremost. I have been trying to promote up at work. I went to a seminar that asked: "why do you want to promote up?" I will take more and more work and promote up as long as they allow me to explore. I have 17 more years until I retire. However, I am also frugal with my money. I meal prep and  I take lunch to work. I would rather spend it fine dining on vacation. I also request my vacations about a year in advance and have to plan it out. It gives me time to save and make a budget. What's f****d up is, if u charge it, when you come back you have to pay for something that already happened and you can't even plan on the next trip. 

Rx: Traveling is wonderful and you learn a lot along the way, but have you had any negative experiences traveling? Any scary moments?  Has terrorism impacted your traveling?

SC: Yes, there's always a fear of the unknown. I feel excitement and fear together. I don't get excited until I'm on the plane. Right now a lot of people say "don't go to the Dominican Republic." But hey, if something happens to me, it is what is. I am doing what I love. 4 years ago, I went to Thailand and I was at a yoga retreat. A terrorist bomb went off and we thought it was an earthquake. I saw people fleeing and screaming. It's scary. In the next 2 years there were lots of deaths from similar incidents. Also, on a trip to the BPM music festival, there was a mass shooting at a nightclub. There were many lives lost. Nowhere is unsafe. The U.S is unsafe. You can go to the movies and get shot. And what am I going to do, stay home for a fear of getting shot? No, I won't stop traveling for fear. I am always cautious. I live in a bad part of LA. When the London terrorist attack was happening, I still went to London. Of course I will still be cautious and aware of my surroundings, but I won't stop living my life.

Rx: Would you say there are countries that are better to travel when you are single, in a relationship, or with a group of friends? 

SC: Bikrum Yoga Retreats is doing a retreat in Ibiza. I love yoga, but I don't want to go there and do yoga. I think you can do anything anywhere. I have done solo trips and dont think it matters as long as you are open to new experiences, meeting people and socializing. There are a lot of girls that won't even go dinner alone. I think maybe Paris and Florence would be more special with someone. I have some places saved up for that. Aside from that, I think you can go anywhere. 

Rx: Traveling alone, traveling with one person or traveling with a group of friends. How do you feel about that, what do you prefer? What are the pros and cons of each?

SC: It all depends on the activity. I love music festivals. I love going with a large group of people. I love getting and Airbnb and sharing a space with friends you don't normally get to spend time with.  I think I prefer an intimate group when you are exploring a new country and do a lot of sightseeing because it's hard to meet everyone's expectations. Going with one or two people is ideal. Time is money,  and you spend a lot of time planning so I am pretty selfish and picky with who I travel with. 

Rx: What about selecting the people to travel with, how does that matter and how does one know? The reason I ask is because when I first wanted to travel I realized that many people say they want to go somewhere and end up changing their mind or "flaking."

SC: I am very selective, time is precious. You want your friends to carry you on your trip (not literally). Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. What you don't bring to the table, I will complement. You don't want needy people that won't bring anything. For me, it's also people who I have fun with. No drama. There's always going to be people upset. You want a positive attitude to bring out the best of you. You learn this through time. You are spending time and money, but time is more valuable when you travel. 

Rx: Now in terms of extravagant traveling versus general traveling and backpacking what are your thoughts. Have you done it all, do you stick to something in particular? Does it depend where you go?

SC: I have done them both. I have experienced it all. I have done hostels with no hot water. I have traveled with my yoga friend and since she is a hotel connoisseur, we stayed in the finest hotels. In my 30s I am all about splurging. I am at a point where I value the experience. I want to splurge on the activities, and they cost money. Scuba diving is obviously one of them. I love Airbnb because you get value for your money. Although it depends on what the goal is for the trip.  If im sightseeing a lot, I will get a hostel. If I am chilling, I want to stay in a nicer place. I am a diverse traveler. I can camp in 120 degree heat, and to very nice yoga retreats in Thailand. 

Rx: When you are on vacation, do you ever drive in that country, prefer public transportation or use private chauffeurs? 

SC: First of all I don't drive. I Uber or walk. I do public transport. I prefer to gain experience. Be a traveler, not a tourist.

Rx: Can you share the trips you have lined up or plan on taking?

SC: I told myself I wasn't traveling soon, but I am going to South America and am finally going to Peru. I will be hiking Machu Picchu. Then I will be heading to Chile and finally Buenos Aires. I am also going to a music festival in New York City. Later, I am heading out to Costa Rica for BPM.  

Rx: Why do you like to travel? And what would you say to someone who doesn't travel to encourage them to do so? 

SC: I think when you step outside of your comfort zone, there is a sense of growth. I get fearful and anxious. But I try to convert that into excitement. I think it helps you grow as a person. It helps you overcome uncomfortableness of the new and unfamiliar. Then, you feel accomplished and empowered. I guess I would say we are here for a short amount of time. We are so small and there is just so much to see! 

Rx: Are there any final thoughts you would like to say or share regarding traveling in general or anything that we might not have talked about?

SC: I still have so much more to cover that my scuba hobby has taught me. When you go down under, it's like another world down there. I have seen and experienced life on the ground level in these countries, but now I want to explore underwater in places like: the Philippines, Galapagos, Honduras, and Australia. I think that the more I see and experience, I realize there is even more to see and experience.

I would love to thank Sonya for sharing her stories and her tips. Click here for her Instagram account. Hopefully you were able to take something away from this and it inspires you to take a trip. Life is too short and the world is too interesting to spend it at all in one place.